SURRENDER-Get Out Of Your Mind. Quick!

“The mind is the author of confusion. Do you want to live in confusion? Ok then, GET OUT. Quick!”

     At this point, you may be thinking... How in the heck do I get out of my intellectual mind and listen to my heart mind? How do I know the difference? Or, even if there is a difference? How? HOW?!? If this brain noise applies to you, please continue to read the following blog, containing four sacred tools that could help you create a life-altering experience.

    There have been many days where I confused myself into a tizzy, trying to figure out how to make a decision. And the excruciating and needy pain of often asking a parent, friend, and/or co-worker: “What should I do?” Usually, receiving an answer with which I only created more confusion. (So much for looking for answers outside myself.) Back and forth I went until I had suffered enough. 

     One of the many reasons I was unwilling to pull up my courage and listen to my heart was because I was swimming in the swamps of the icky, sticky “GOOP!” Yep, for most of my life, I had been addicted and stuck in the debilitating “Good Opinion Of People!” I wanted my decision to please everyone-including myself. As a result, I walked right into a therapist’s office in San Diego and desperately demanded...PILLS! Anything to take the pain away from the anxiety I was creating from the dreaded four words of: I am not enough. The psychologist said, “not now,” and we began weekly therapy sessions where I learned that I was a servant of my mind AND other people’s. In order for me to create peace, I must not serve two masters. A portal to the divine opened for me that day, and I realized that if I am serving any other master (especially, my own ego/mind), I will create suffering.

“We’re taught from childhood to stay in ‘your right mind,’ which usually refers to the intellectual mind. Yet what we think is so often in conflict with what we know in our hearts. I would rather know from my heart than to think that I know.” 

And thus, my journey back to my heart began. By being willing to receive the guidance from my teacher, I learned how to actually do it. Yes friends, there is a way!

“Peace is not a state of mind. It is a state of being. There is no need to fight with your mind. Just simply breathe and step out of it.” 

With your willingness, here are FOUR spiritual tools that could help you “step out of it!”

1. “When in doubt...DON’T!”

“We come to this life with two minds: the intellectual mind and the heart mind. You can determine which mind you’re using by the presence, or absence, of doubt. If there is any doubt, you are using your intellectual mind. No matter how difficult the choice in any given situation, the heart mind trusts the direction it takes, while the intellectual mind will usually be influenced by fears based on the dead past or the imagined future.” 

How many times do you have that inner nudge and just when you are going to turn right, your mind says: But, but....what if it’s left? You then play the tug-of-war-game and exhaust yourself with the vice like grip of indecision. The intellectual mind is the architect of doubt. The heart mind trusts the decision it takes no matter what! I suggest that when you are in any doubt, remind yourself to breathe, relax, and let go. Be patient with your process, and then...

2. “Get Your ‘But’ Out Of The Way.” (And some of us have bigger “buts” than others.)

“I love my partner, but he is not meeting my models. I need food, but I feel too lazy to go to the grocery store. I want to go to the party, but I don’t have anything to wear.” But, but, but...is an excuse, and excuses come from the mind.

“The heart mind says, “Totally trust that love works.” The intellectual mind says, “Well, maybe...but...” If you are not willing to get your ‘but’ out of the way, you’re thumbing your nose at enlightenment.”

3. “Doubt Your Doubt!” 

“Doubting your own doubt is a turning point.” 

Once I stopped making decisions when my doubt showed up and got my but out of the way, I realized, Why not just “doubt my doubt,” and go with my FIRST initial gut whisper? After all, this is the voice of divinity gently calling my name, giving me my answer. And so, I began to trust my instinct. Consequently, it has worked out really well. And the more I practice, the easier it gets. 

4. “Practice. Practice. Practice.”

It only works if you are willing to create the discipline and work it!

“Most people resist the word discipline because they define it as drudgery. Take this moment to see the word discipline with new eyes. See Love as a choice that you make again and again. What would your life look like if you created that ‘discipline’ of loving?” 

     I pray that all of us simply create the willingness to recreate our lives and draw on our courage to live our lives anew. In that environment, there’s hope for the planet.