“Your heart either says, ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ When you say, ‘no,’ your mind wants to give many reasons...WHY. Simplify your life! Your heart’s decisions need no justification.”
Now that you are beginning to see the difference between your heart’s mind and intellectual mind, my next entry will take you deeper. The ego often questions, WHY? And then replies, You need a reason for your decisions and if you don’t have one, THINK and analyze some more. If you are willing, this blog will help you see that there are no “cookie-cutter” answers when it comes to love. Remember, our heart knows what the mind “thinks” it knows...
How often have you been asked to do something or go somewhere, knowing that your first instinct was to say “no,” but there seemed to be no sensible reason why? So then, your brain begins to scramble for justifications to validate what your heart is conveying. You then think that each reason sounds lame and you are not only addicted to the Good Opinion Of People (The “GOOP”), you become addicted to the Good Opinion Of Your Own Mind (The “GOOYOM”), and before you know it, you go against your heart’s desire. Inevitably, going along to get along, still wrestling with your decision, and suffering through the yes. Sound familiar? Welcome to Hell.
“The only real common sense comes from a free spirit. The rest is simply justification for addiction.”
I was the queen of saying, “yes,” and a people pleaser. My mind would tell me that it was selfish to say “no.” Until I’d had enough. Once I experienced years of therapy, eye cancer for my fourth time and a child with developmental challenges, I was willing to put the oxygen mask on myself, first.
So, what did I do?
I got my but out of the way. We do not need to figure out the why. We do not need a reason when our instinct tells us to do something. When we surrender to our hearts, we listen and trust it. Even, when it does not make sense to our intellectual mind or contradicts what the world says is the “right” thing to do.
“If you let your life be controlled by your untrained intellectual mind, you’ll be on a constant emotional roller coaster. If you are willing to train your intellectual mind to be a servant of your heart mind, you’ll be like a reliable smooth-sailing ship, strong enough to weather the waves and storms of life with little or no real damage. The spiritually untrained intellectual mind is the
servant of fear. The spiritually trained mind is the servant of Love.
The question begs: Why would you choose to serve a tyrant (fear) when you could serve Love
and be free of the chains to which fear binds you?”
As I continued attending Living Love classes, I was lovingly called “Cookie-Cutter Kathleen.” I wanted a rule, a commandment, a sure fire right and wrong list. I wanted my teacher to tell me what to do. Often her reply was: “You know, Kathleen! It’s in there and you are just unwilling to pull it up right now. Create patience.” Cinnamon is a world class heart facilitator and has helped me bring up what I know from MY heart-not hers.
I finally see that Love has many faces. The mind is the author of confusion. And, often what looks bad, wrong, or weird is actually offering us to choose love and follow our heart-not our conditioning. Sure, life is all about programming and then it is our choice to courageously open our vision. Or not. We create safety in the familiar, often leading to complacency. The more we practice following the intelligence of our hearts, the more we experience our own freedom. We will then say “yes” or “no” with confidence.
